'I told her she’s boring and has to fake her personality': Woman is jealous that her roommate speaks multiple languages, gets roasted online

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    Plant - "AITA for telling my roommate that speaking a language is not a personality and she needs a new one?"
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    Font - AITA for telling my roommate that speaking a language is not a personality and she needs a new one? I (f19) am in my first year of college, living with a roommate, Katie (f19). Katie speaks three languages (English, German and Spanish) and she makes it her whole personality.
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    Font - Whenever I ask what she's watching, she's watching something in another language. So obviously I can't watch it. She's always listening to music on her headphones and when I tried to bond and listen to what's she's listening, it's in another language again and I couldn't stand it.
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    Font - Her friends all speak one of the languages she does and whenever I hear them, I can't join the conversation because they mixing everything so I'm left out of their convo.
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    Font - The other day, I saw she had a new book on her desk, Portuguese coursebook. I asked her about this and she said she's taking private Portuguese classes starting February.
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    Font - I told her she has to let it go, that she needs to develop her personality because speaking a language isn't a personality trait and she's just boring.
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    Font - She got really annoyed with me and told me I'm an hole and to stop eavesdropping on her convos. I told her she's boring and has to fake her personality. Now, she's not speaking to me. My friends are split, some agree with me and some agree with her. Who's the hole here? AITA for telling the truth?
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    Rectangle - TheDrunkScientist. 1 day ago 2 2 YTA. Jealousy is not a personality either. 57.8k Reply Sha
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    Font - InfectedAlloy88. 22 hr. ago Neither is xenophobia 11.8k Reply S
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    Font - OrangeCubit 1 day ago . YTA - she has a personality. She has friends, interests and hobbies. Just because you don't like her music or can't keep up with her friends doesn't mean those things don't count, it just makes you sound jealous and judgy. 19.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Nik-ki 22 hr. ago Also, only listening to music in a language you can understand is really limiting and ultimately just dumb. There are sites with lyric translations for nearly every song out there, if you really want to know, but the music itself is universal 3.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Samael13 23 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [27] YTA - 100%. Your roommate has an interest and is engaging with it and with people who share that interest. There's nothing stopping you from also enjoying movies in another language--you could have asked her to turn on the subtitles.
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    Font - Between the two of you, you sound like the boring one, tbh. You're lurking around your roommate, judging her for having interests that don't involve you, and then were needlessly nasty to her because you can't speak the same languages she does. One of you definitely needs to work on her personality, but, spoiler: it's not your roommate. 9.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Electrical-Date-3951. 20 hr. ago "I told her she has to let it go, that she needs to develop her personality because speaking a language isn't a personality trait and she's just boring." I love how OP is the one snapping that the roommate has no personality and is boring, yet she is the one who is seemingly desperate for friends..... The roommate is minding her own business, paying OP dust, listening to her music/watching shows, and hanging out with her diverse group of friends while OP j
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    Font - NullSpaceGaming. 1 day ago YTA. It's funny how many of these boil down to petty jealousy 3.6k Reply Share
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    Font - TinaMonday 23 hr. ago YTA. The fact is that speaking multiple languages and exploring the cultures they reflect is a lot more of a personality than mean girling your way through life by belittling people with an actual skill set. You're the one who needs to let it go and become a more rounded person. 2.7k Reply Share
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    Font - stainglassaura · 23 hr. ago AITA for telling the truth? What you did was give your uneducated ignorant jealous OPINION. Not the truth. You sound jealous and it ain't cute. Yta 2.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Conscious Excitement9 23 hr. ago You need to stop making only speaking English your personality and actually develop a real personality that makes people want to be around you. YTA 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - DJ_Too_Supreme - 23 hr. ago YTA. This entire post screams envy. You're the only one who has an issue with her knowing other languages I told her she has to let it go, that she needs to develope her personaility because speaking a language isn't a personality trait and she's just boring Speaking different languages isn't a personality trait, it's a skill. What IS a personaltiy trait is jealousy, this is what you have OP 780 Reply Share
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    Font - Pedantkitty 23 hr. ago YTA. Katie does not need to change and dumb down herself just so you can glom onto her interests, tv shows, music or friends. Stop trying to police what she learns, watches, listens to or speaks, and maybe go get yourself a clue. 571 Reply Share
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    Font - iambecomesoil - 23 hr. ago YTA You just described your roommate as well educated, interested in TV and music and continuing their education, and as having friends. You've described yourself as jealous, intrusive, and petty. You didn't "tell her the truth". You exposed yourself. Reply Share 432
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    Font - RoyallyOakie 23 hr. ago YTA...It sounds like she's leading a full life. Give it a try. Reply Share 319
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    Font - 55 (0%) Strategy Previous8379 23 hr. ago YTA. You are projecting your own insecurities onto Katie. The truth is, she's not boring; she's got friends and a personality for every language she speaks, and you (by your own admission) have the one personality that can't bond, relate, join in, or stand learning a new trick. Reply Share 220
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    Font - WholeAd2742 - 1 day ago. edited 19 hr. ago YTA Her enjoyment of other languages is HERS and kudos for her learning even more. The boring jealous AH here is you 217 Reply Share
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    Font - Acceptable-Site - 1 day ago YTA. From your post, it seems like your roommate has a skill with picking up languages. She has interests in foreign films, music and books. That doesn't make her boring. That opens up a minimum of 3 new worlds and cultures for her to explore.
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    Font - You don't really speak on her personality or yours for that matter. A personality is a group of characteristics/qualities that make a person who they are. Describing her personality would include her disposition. Is she a happy go lucky, go with the flow kind of person? Is she an anxious nervous need to plan everything person? Her language skills aren't a reflection of her personality and your lack of language skills aren't a reflection of yours.
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    Font - But your lack of understanding and judgement and jealousy of your roommate does speak to your personality. Turn on subtitles. Listen to the beat of music you don't understand. Music is universal. I don't speak Spanish or French and still enjoy songs in both languages.
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    Font - Maybe do some self reflection because it sounds like you may be insecure and you're projecting that on your roommate. So again, YTA. 181 Reply Share

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